Revival

I was a parched, dry, dying flower

You became the rain drenching my soul

Reviving me, as I bloom exquisitely..

© Renu Vyas

Between Wake and Asleep

Early morning hours

In that state of half asleep

The thoughts more tender

The heart more bare

As my mind still hangs

To the edges of my dreams..

©Renu Vyas

Toothpaste Dispenser ? Really ??

When was the last time you gave a thought on putting the right amount of toothpaste on your tooth brush ? Have you ever been really worried that you may put more toothpaste than is needed or that you would get the amount all wrong ? well you need not worry any more ! It seems there is a “smart” gadget that can help you get just that "right" amount of toothpaste on your tooth brush !!

Yes, I'm talking about the toothpaste dispenser. Another piece of annoying technology that for me tops the list of useless gadgets.

I sit here and wonder, why would a company, any company, ask their employees to use their precious creativity and innovative talent to design a gadget that makes absolutely no sense ?

Maybe they felt that squeezing a toothpaste tube is, presumably, a lot of hard work and they wanted to do away with that task ? Or maybe the act of picking up the lid if/when it falls is very tiring ? Oh wait...now you don't have to worry about your spouse or child squeezing the tube at the center !! That way there will be less morning fights and divorce rates will go down and harmony amidst parents and children will be restored and life will be more peaceful !!

Really ? Do we really need a toothpaste dispenser ? This in my view is the new level of craziness and lazy.

Freedom of Expression

I do not have a problem with people expressing their views, in fact I feel everyone should have the right to freely voice out what they think and feel.

The problem starts when the moment we express our views ( and that too in a very polite manner ) the other will reciprocate with unnecessary sarcasm, abusive language and ridicule. They make it their goal to either convince the other that THEIR view is the only right view or silence the other.

It's your right to disagree with another but that can be done in a graceful way too.
And silence should never be taken as submission.

And debates are all about speaking, expressing, and hearing the other.
They are not about shouting, suppressing the other's voice, not hearing another's view point and in general creating noise.

Social media gives us the freedom to express and interact. It saddens me when I see people becoming abusive on Twitter, Facebook and whatsapp.
I guess John Stuart Mill said it well:

"The peculiar evil of silencing the expression of an opinion is, that it is robbing the human race; posterity as well as the existing generation; those who dissent from the opinion, still more than those who hold it. If the opinion is right, they are deprived of the opportunity of exchanging error for truth: if wrong, they lose, what is almost as great a benefit, the clearer perception and livelier impression of truth, produced by its collision with error."
  - John Stuart Mill 

Nostalgia

Nostalgia is

When moments from past

Become the companions 

Of your today

Copyright Renu Vyas.

Non Existent

मेरे बोलों की आवाज़ किसी तक पहुँचती ही नहीं

मेरी शख्सियत को लोग देख ही नहीं पाते हैं...

मेरे अस्तित्व का कोई महत्व नहीं किसी के लिए

मुझ जैसे लोग अक्सर यूँ ही भुला दिए जाते हैं...

Copyright Renu Vyas

Shattered Dreams

Millions of dreams shattered

The death of each buried deep inside

So many graves, I visit each night

Copyright Renu Vyas

Odd Ones

I am an ancient square

In this modern circle of life

Awkward, mis shaped

And not fitting in

Copyright Renu Vyas

Letting Go..

Sitting by the sea side

I let my heart bleed out 

All its agony and pain 

One wave at a time....

Copyright Renu Vyas

Changing Shapes

I never really knew love

People only love 

If you mould yourself

To their expectations

Sadly, I am always

Changing shapes

© Copyright Renu Vyas

My Flight

I flew, leaving behind
My inhibitions for you
But you were not there
To notice my wings

© Copyright Renu Vyas

Silent Conversations

Sometimes in between our conversations

Deep inside, in those little pauses

Lies a whole new dimension

Where the silence speaks

A language of it's own

Whispering all that is left unsaid

You just need to stay quiet and listen

To the language of my heart

That only your heart can understand...

By Renu Vyas

The Amaltaas Tree

Proud and strong

There's a tree that stands tall

I gaze at it in wonder

Amaltaas it is called

Defying the heat

It's flowers bloom

Their mild pleasant smell

Like a heavenly perfume

They sway here and there

In the gentle breeze

Attracting all to it

Always ready to please

A sign of nature's beauty

And a symbol of grace

The Amaltaas never fails

To bring a smile to my face

Renu Vyas

Rain - Showers of Blessings

It is raining in Pune today. A much needed relief after the hot spell we have had.
I have always loved rains. I know a lot of people who say they feel depressed when it rains. The grey clouds seem drab to them but to me they add an element of mystery.  I absolutely love it when it rains. For me, rain means rainbows, long drives on deserted roads away from the chaos of the city, paper boats and the laughter on children’s faces as they jump and splash around in the puddles. It means hot “Pakoras” and some ginger tea as I sit by the window watching the water run down the window panes.

I love the sound it makes.. the constant rhythm that is regular only in its randomness  fascinates me. After a while you cease to notice the noise that surrounds you and realize that rain has its own kind of silence, the kind where you can get lost in your own thoughts..the silence that invites your imagination to wander to all those places.. there is a privacy in rain..one just has to connect with it to feel it.

I love being out in the rain too. That soft satin touch on my skin invigorates me and I love the way it envelops me in itself, washing away the negativity and debris of daily life. The world seems so much more cleaner after the rain. The colours become more vibrant and alive, the landscapes get that surreal quality that is so appealing and the heavenly smell of wet earth.

For a person like me, who appreciates the beauty of nature, and all the blessings that comes with it..rain  is life in all its varied forms. It is sheer poetry and the nostalgia of all that was or could have been.

I know it may sound weird to some but I love thunderstorms too. They give me this euphoric emotional release. They make me feel alive.

Yes, I love rains.

कल रात वो लड़की बहुत याद आई...

कल रात एक सांवली सी लड़की बहुत याद आई 

मैं चुपके से फिर एक बार अपने बचपन में लौट आयी. . 

मिली मुझे एक बार फिर  वो मासूम सी परी 

थोड़ी शरारती , थोड़ी नादान , पर बातों की खरी 

बुनती थी सुन्दर सपने , रहती खयालों में घिरी

ज़माने की सच्चाई को वो कहाँ कभी समझ पायी 

कल रात वो सांवली सी लड़की बहुत याद आयी.. 

मन हुआ उसे झंझोड़ के मैं हकीकत को बताऊँ 

आँखों पे पड़ा सुनहरा पर्दा  खींच के हटाऊँ 

ख्वाबों की हसीं नींद से उसको मैं जगाऊँ 

पर लाचार, ठगी सी, मैं कुछ भी तो ना कर पायी 

कल रात वो सांवली सी लड़की बहुत याद आयी.  .

दिल चाहा कि उसे मैं अपना परिचय दे आऊं 

उसका हूँ मैं ये आज, ये उसको भी बताऊँ

कब होता है सोचा हुआ, उसको ये समझाऊं 

ना कह सकी कुछ भी तो फिर इस आज में लौट आयी 

कल रात वो सांवली सी लड़की बहुत याद आयी.. 

© Copyright Renu Vyas

  

Port Moresby – My Home Away From Home

My School Photograph

I have written about so many places and things here on my blog, but for some odd reason,  I had put my memories of Papua New Guinea on hold. It was as if my mind had somehow blocked them.

Today I came across a few old photographs from my life in Port Moresby and it was as if a floodgate had opened. I felt like a fragile sand castle on the beach, that’s carefully built walls crashed and got carried away with the high tide of memories. My brain working overtime remembering all the lovely moments from that time back home..hold on..did I just say back home ? Yes, however much I might deny it, deep down the only place that ever felt like true home in my heart is and always will be Port Moresby.

I remember our house in Boroko. The houseboy Penny who defined the word loyalty, his wife Lucy who was a wonder at most things and a very gentle soul. I remember  the Hibiscus, gorgeous bougainvillaea, stunning sunsets, moo moo parties,  long dresses with bright big colourful floral  prints, the bird of paradise , the women always carrying their little babies in slings with baskets on their heads, Pidgeon English, beetle nuts,  red teeth and warm smiles..

I remember Skyline Drive In and seeing Clint Eastwood on the big screen for the first time and falling in love with him (that is until I saw John Travolta In Saturday Night Fever and Grease at Wards Cinema..sneaking off with my friends from school).

I remember Paga  Hill and Koki Market.  Shopping at Steamships and Burns Phillips, the long drives, the curves at Three Mile, Crystal Rapids, Brown River and Sunday outings to Ela beach..the heavenly smell of low tide..collecting shells on Taurama beach and putting the larger shells to my ears to hear the sound of the sea in them..

Mr.Riles

I studied at Port Moresby High School and made some great friends. I remember our Principal Mr. Terry Riles ( who I connected with once again after some 30+ years ). I remember how much I hated my French class though loved the English one with Mr. Jackson (and I had a secret crush on him too..haha), always looked forward to the school trips to Pari Village with my favourite teacher Mrs. Carol Kidu. I remember the lovely school dances, the plays, and the horrible detentions, and the awesome meat pies at the school canteen (and the tolly ice). I remember the 3 day school camps, the long hikes and being stung by Jellyfish.

Whenever I think of Port Moresby, the two songs that come to my mind are “Pearly Shells” by Nora Aunor and “Raindrops Keep Falling On My Head” by John Farnham. I would give anything to go back to that time in Port Moresby, but like everything else in life, times change..thank god I have these great memories  that no one can take away from me..

A Winter Morning

I wake up in a slow daze

Expecting the morning to be bright

But it is grey, drab and uninviting

And it feels just not right

My bones groan in protest

My body registers pains and aches

My mind says "get up and get ready"

Yet heart whispers "let sleep overtake"

So I snuggle back in my blanket

Wondering why the day is so cold

Then I shrug and tell myself, maybe

The Sun too like me, is getting old

© Copyright Renu Vyas

The Housewife

Once there was a woman who hardly existed. Her presence was so ubiquitous that people always took her for granted. She fought to give herself some visibility but slowly and gradually she became invisible. Her personality slipping slowly into obscurity.

She was the woman who gave love, and cared for all unconditionally and yet she was never the center of focus. It was as if she was meant for the sidelines. The person your peripheral vision could see but you never really noticed because people prefer to stay focused on the center.

Her efforts more often than not went unrecognized and yet she chose to put others physical and emotional needs before her own while remaining invisible all the time.

She was a housewife.

Ruins of Dreams

In a life full of demolished dreams

I find myself

Among the ruins

© Copyright Renu Vyas

The Perfectly Imperfect Me

I log onto my Face book page and see a friend’s photographs that she has posted while on vacation to some place that looks great. My eyes stray to the comments section below.

“Such a beautiful couple…made for each other !” writes someone.
 “Aww..adorable children..such a perfect family !” writes another.
"Gosh, you guys have such a perfect life !" comments another.

I sit here and wonder..is there really such a thing as a perfect person or family ?

No, let me clear this, I do not feel any kind of jealousy or inferiority towards that friend, but I would never want to be called perfect. To label me as perfect would be to burden me with expectations that I would have to live up to. It would be saying that I am flawless and without any fault whatsoever. I have no wish to be put on a pedestal.

I refuse to believe that any person can be perfect. Everyone has some flaw or another. I am certainly not perfect nor do I aspire to be that. I have my flaws and my scars. I have my share of skeletons from the past and issues in the present, and who knows what the future holds in store for me ?

I have come across people who will go to any lengths to show their beautifully decorated perfect homes. They will post pictures of their vacations at exotic destinations. Those awesomely edited perfect poses. An image of an impeccable, perfect family and life. And yet, I am well aware of the insecurities, the internal struggles, and the pressure of living up to social expectations that they hide behind their “perfectness”.

I am not a perfect woman. I do not have a perfect life, family, home or career.

Instead of a pristine wonderfully decorated house, I would rather have a home that makes me feel comfortable, where I can put up my feet and curl on the sofa with my favorite book in hand. A house with an orderly chaos. A family that would laugh and yet argue and cry together. A life that would be blissful, joyous, and yet beautifully messy.

I do love looking good, what woman doesn’t ? but I would want to look good for myself, wear the clothes that I feel compliment my personality rather than what the latest fashion or trend is.

I would prefer to share my insecurities and vulnerabilities rather than keep them all buried and hidden inside to keep up with that perfectly happy look. I am happy with my flaws, my scars, my differences and my imperfections because they make me who I am, and make me unique in my own way.

I am not perfect but I am perfectly imperfect and I would not want to be any other way. This is the me I love and this is the me I would want the world to see.

The Witness

The moon is a witness

Of our love

And our denial   

        

       - Renu Vyas.

Appearances

I fake all my smiles 

As I stand tall and proud

Yet only I can know 

How alone I am in the crowd

My feelings hold no meaning

My voice is seldom heard

All my internal anguish 

Cannot be described in a word

I long to be accepted

And I yearn to just belong

Yet I remain that wrong note

In life’s beautiful song

But I refuse to be pitied

So I always laugh out loud

I fake it and I fake it

Till I make it in the crowd 

© Copyright Renu Vyas

The Widow

She is scorned and looked down at

Always disgraced and stigmatized

Treated as a worthless woman

Who failed to save her husband’s life

Never invited to religious events

And often shunned from social life

Her presence considered inauspicious

Isolated, with no one to hear her cries

She has so much to share and say

But her views are just not heard

So she stays a sad and lonely figure

And swallows back all her words

They treat her shabbily forever

And restrict and confine her life

All through this they calmly forget

That she is still very much alive

© Copyright Renu Vyas

Cassata Ice-cream and Memories

Hubby: Let us order some ice-cream after dinner.

Son: Sure, Mom..What flavour should I order for you ?

I am about to say “cassata ice-cream” but then I stop and wonder..where did that name come up from ? do they even serve the cassata anymore ? I grab the menu card and take a look and with a pang I realize that the cassata is not even on the list. There are so many flavours listed, an assorted array of bewildering yet glamorous sounding names that I do not even understand. And so I finally end up muttering feebly “Vanilla or mango”…

But as I eat my ice-cream, my mind is flooded with my childhood memories and the emotions attached to them. Back in the 70’s and 80’s, the cassata was the most expensive ice-cream on the list and it was every child’s dream. The mere thought that we would have a cassata after the dinner at a restaurant (which in itself was a rare treat) would be the highlight of the evening.

The cassata ice-cream moments are as clear as yesterday in my mind. It is a memory indelibly etched to remain forever. I remember the huge servings of the three layers of the tutti-frutti, strawberry and vanilla sprinkled with assorted nuts, the shutting of my eyes as I felt the sweetness melt in my mouth….

Those were the times of a less complicated era and the simpler pleasures of life. Nostalgia..how it hits us when we least expect it..

The Woman That Was

Forgotten by all, lost and lonely

She became invisible and unseen

 People would look right through her

But not hear her silent screams

They talked to her, they passed her by

But failed to see her tears

They talked of all the comforts she had

Yet never noticed her fears

So she donned a mask that always smiled

And hid all that she really had been

She retreated deep down in herself

And the real “Her” was never again to be seen

© Copyright Renu Vyas

Wishful Thinking

Today I received 

Your letter

A letter that was 

Written for me

By me

Through you

A conversation

Between you

And I

That never was...

Schizophrenia 

Of thoughts 

 Jumbled to form 

In-coherent emotions 

In the form of words

But regardless

 It was still a letter

From you to me

Written for me

By me

Through you…

 © Copyright Renu Vyas

My Silly Poem

Very, very long ago

And once upon a time

I wrote a silly poem

That had no rhythm or rhyme

The words were really silly

And made no sense at all

And whosoever heard it

Would either cry or bawl

They would all yell at me

And ask me to please stop

But I refused to believe

That my poem was a flop

I made many copies of it

And stuck them on pizzas and pies

But then no one would eat them

And they would attract just flies

So I read it to trees and flowers

And I read it to the skies

I read it to imps and fairies

Who I felt were more wise

They pondered and wondered

At what my poem meant

They had meetings over it

And many a weeks they spent

But since they never understood

They decided not to take stress

They accepted and awarded me

And declared my silly poem the best

  © Copyright Renu Vyas

Where has the laughter gone ?

"Always find a reason to laugh. It may not add years to your life, but will surely add life to your years."

Please don’t be misled by the title of this post. I am not sad and neither have I lost my sense of humour. I still have my sense of humour intact, but I don't laugh out loud like I did years ago. There was a time when I laughed in pure unadulterated joy at the smallest of things but now I don't find things as funny as I once did.

In fact when I look around, I see that overall people don’t laugh so much anymore. It is not that we are depressed, well maybe sometimes we are, but most of the times it is just that we are so distracted and caught up in our chaotic everyday life trying to make ends meet, trying to beat deadlines, multitasking,  and living up to expectations that we do not notice the funnier side of life. We are never fully present in the moment.

Most of my phone conversations with my family happen with me working at the same time doing this or that.

Another reason could be that for something to be funny there has to be a surprise or unusual angle attached to it. Sadly most things do not surprise me now as I get older. There is a sense of “been there, done that”. It is not that I am becoming blasé but I just don’t find things that funny anymore.

When was the last time you really laughed ? and by laughed I mean that loud belly aching laugh..it seems it is missing from life these days. It is as if we are living without truly being alive.

Love Immortalized

Instead of carving you

In wood or stone

I preserved your memories

In my heart 

And captured every aspect of you

In my poetry

Immortalizing you

Through my words

  © Copyright Renu Vyas

Those Moments

Somewhere in between

Soft midnight conversations

Your cigarette breaths

And my coffee stains

I fell in love

© Copyright Renu Vyas

Paper Existence

I am all the words

That reside in my poetry

Come, embrace my paper existence 

© Copyright Renu Vyas

बस यूँही.....

कभी कभी दिल चाहता है,

 यूँ'ही कोई क़रीब आये

 न कोई सवाल पूछे, न ज़वाब मांगे

 बस  बिना कोई वजह यूँही

सर पर हाथ रख के कहे

 "सब ठीक हो जायेगा....."

Just Like That

 Sometimes, all you want 

Is for someone to be there

No questions asked

 No judgments passed

To just put their hand on your head

 And say in that caring tone

"Everything will be alright.."

Pain & Poetry

There is a pain hidden

In every poem that I write

And there is a poem hidden

In every pain that I feel...

© Copyright Renu Vyas

Canyons Of Past

I am like a meandering river

That flows through

The canyons of my past.

© Copyright Renu Vyas

Drowning In Poetry

I would rather spill ink

Instead of tears

And drown in poetry

© Copyright Renu Vyas

Voice Of Silence

Amidst all the hustle and bustle around

I overheard today

The voice of silence in the crowd 

© Copyright Renu Vyas

Memories

“Meine shayad tumhe pehle bhi kahin dekha hai…”  croons Mohammed Rafi softly in his melodious voice on the radio. I stop and stare at the radio. Waves of inexplicable nostalgia wash over me.  I haven’t heard this song in years and suddenly I am overcome with a torrent of memories. It is like a flashback of a different place and a different time.

Some songs when heard after a long, trigger such vivid memories that transport us back in time. They bring back emotions long buried beneath the debris of our everyday life. It is as if they are entwined with memories of certain people, places and seasons. Some songs bring a smile while others make us shed a tear quietly. Such is the power of songs and music.

What songs bring back emotions from your past ? Has a song ever caught you off guard and brought back a tidal wave of memories ?

Cloak of Anonymity

Leaving behind cacophony of life

I reach out and embrace peace, solitude

A welcome cloak of anonymity

© Copyright Renu Vyas

Dear Time...

Dear time, stop for a while

Let me revel in my today

And with my past reconcile

© Copyright Renu Vyas

Closure

The fragments that you left behind

Of a once shared day-to-day life

I gather and store all bit by bit

Yet they still hurt like splinters in feet

© Copyright Renu Vyas

New Beginnings

Standing quietly in the rain

Letting words wash off pages

Turning blank the book called "Me"

An urge to re-write life

© Copyright Renu Vyas

कुछ सुन्दर यादें मेरे बचपन की ....

कुछ सुन्दर यादें मेरे बचपन की...



वो गर्मीयों की छुट्टियाँ। वो पानी छिड़क कर ठण्डी की हुई गर्म छत की सौंधी खुशबू, घर के सारे लोग और तारों की छाँव, वो रात का खाना छत पे खाना, खाने में मोगर रोटी और कैर के आचार का होना... खाटें लाइन में लगाना फिर देर रात तक फुसफुसा कर बातें करना। रेडियो पर हवा महल, बिनाका गीतमाला सुनना ।

वो गली के नुक्कड़ से चवन्नी का बर्फ लाकर शरबत बना कर पीना,
कोट पीस/चौकड़ी खेलना...किराये की साइकल को बारी बारी चलाना और वो साइकल की चेन का बार बार उतर जाना...

वो माँ/दादी का स्वेटर बुनते वक़्त पास बुला के नाप लेना, और दिवाली पे नए कपड़ो का आना..वो बड़े बुज़ुर्गों का पटाखों के हिस्से करना और वो एक एक पटाखे के लिए लड़ना झगड़ना ...

माँ का नारियल तेल को धूप में रखना और फिर सर में लगा के दो चोटी बनाना, बुआ का उस चोटी के लिए रंगीन रिबन लाना..

कुछ सुन्दर यादें मेरे बचपन की ....

Happy Wedding Anniversary Dear Husband

Seeing your face first in the morning

And at the day's end, each night

Gives much warmth to my heart

And brings so much delight

You're my motivation and inspiration

And everything in between

You're the reason for my sun to shine

With you around I feel like a queen

You have not just been a husband

You've been my guide and friend

This beautiful life we share

I pray just never ends

You've supported me in all I wished

Without you I know not where I'd be

Your presence in my life

Completes and fulfills me

So thank you dear husband

For being my life's best part

I pray with all of my love

That we will never be apart

© Copyright Renu Vyas

Tick..Tock..Tick..Tock

Tick tock......tick tock…...

Ticks on my internal clock

Tick tock….tick tock……..

Nothing makes it stop

Tick tock…tick tock…

How annoying is the sound,

Tick tock…tick tock…

I wish time would turn around

Tick tock…tick tock…

Memories flash before my eyes

Tick tock…tick tock…

I wonder at how time flies   

Tick tock…tick tock…

It takes all my years and days

Tick tock…tick tock…

Hazy moments are all that stay

 Tick tock…tick tock…

Will I get to say a final goodbye

Tick tock…tick tock…

Or will I just fade away and die 

Tick tock…tick tock…

 I’ll remain a name in the past

Tick tock…tick tock…

A mere speck in a world so vast

Tick tock…..tick tock….

Ticks on my internal clock

Tick tock….tick tock…..

I just wish it would finally stop

© Copyright Renu Vyas

Finally In My Fifties !

I turned 50 recently. Somehow it felt like I had reached an unseen milestone in my life..and yet, I sit here and think, what actually did I achieve in all these years ?

I had a great many responsibilities bestowed upon me right from the age of 17.  I have no complains. I have had my share of happiness too but my role in life and the responsibilities that came with it had me grow up too fast, too soon. Being considered an adult at just 17 meant life was filled with commitments and responsibilities, and these demands often left me feeling weary and stressed out.

But now that I’m 50, I’m free of most of those responsibilities. My children are grown up and Hubby and I have a lot of time on our hands. I always used to think that being fifty would make me feel old and a lot of people DO tell me that I’m getting old, I certainly don’t feel it.

I feel fifty is a comfortable age to be in. It’s neither young nor old. Yes, I’m no longer young but then I’m also over those tiresome 20s 30s and 40s where one worries about one’s actions, appearance and presentation. 50s is the time where you become comfortable with what you really are. You stop trying to please others all the time. You can start living for yourself and do what you like, however childish, silly or stupid it may seem to another.

So what is it that I would love to do now that I’m 50 ? Oh nothing great like studying rocket science trust me ! Here is a list of all that I wish to do now.

Laugh out loud if I feel like it at every silly joke that I enjoy instead of that delicate soft smile/laugh that ladies are always expected to indulge in.

Be impulsive. If I feel like a pizza, ice-cream, samosa or any such thing I will eat one ! I will dress up the way I want and when I want ! (yes that includes wearing pink !) If I feel like singing a song sitting behind Hubby on his bike I will sing and not worry about those passing by ! A small jig when I hear a good news would be great too !

Talk nonsense. Yes well I’ve had my share of the so called intelligent conversations and polite small talks that bored me to death. I am entitled to talk nonsense. It can be fun (for me at least and that’s all that matters right now).

Maybe I will stop avoiding puddles on the road ? I always wanted to go splash in them so why not !

Eat out of the box or jar without anyone telling me its not proper.

Stamp my feet in anger when I don’t like something ! (I have always wanted to do that but just never got around to it yet).

Cant think of anything else for now. Anyone got any other ideas or suggestions ? Hehe :P

Inner Voice

Listen to your inner voice

And do what it tells you they all said.

How do I explain to them

There lives a whole society in my head.

© Copyright Renu Vyas

जब कि तुझ बिन नहीं कोई मौजूद

फिर ये हंगामा ऐ ख़ुदा क्या है..

Mirza Ghalib

The Unwritten Postcards

All those places we visited

Through our conversations

And all the beautiful sights we saw

Through our shared dreams

I have a colourful postcard

For every place we’ve never been

Hundreds of postcards

And a few dozen unwritten letters

All stored away safely

In the dusty drawers of my mind

I take them out sometimes

And breathe in that smell of yours

Which was never there

To give myself a reason to breathe

As I imagine us once again

At all those places we never went

And to envelop myself 

In a comforting, yet false relief

© Copyright Renu Vyas

What Is Your Fear ?

I am claustrophobic.

Claustrophobia is an anxiety disorder in which the sufferer has an irrational fear of having no escape or being closed-in. It frequently results in a panic attack and can be triggered by a lot of things.

It is not necessarily the small spaces that trigger the anxiety but the fear of what can happen to the person if confined to that area. Some things that trigger anxiety issues with me are:

Elevators, tunnels, basements or underground rooms and spaces, movie theatres, subway trains, hotel rooms with windows that do not open, public toilets and in some cases medical devices like MRI scanners etc.

It is not being in a small space that bothers me – it is being effectively trapped in that space that leaves me feeling breathless. I hate elevators. That terrifying moment between the elevator stopping and the doors opening feels like forever to me. I feel like I can't breathe when I am in an enclosed area. The fear of being enclosed or stuck up in any place with no easy escape triggers a panic attack in me. If I am in a room and there are too many people, I start to feel the beginnings of it. Crowded stores are one of the worst for me. I often have to step outside. Feeling held down or contained in any way triggers it instantly.

It is difficult for people without this affliction to even begin to understand this condition. There have been so many instances where I have been ridiculed when I take the stairs instead of the elevator or when I check the hotel room that I am to stay in for windows that open out to a balcony.

We all have a phobia or two in life. Some fear the water, others heights etc. but I feel we should be more tolerant towards those people.

What is your fear ?